Is good to be wrong!

What if tell you is good to be wrong?
It can sounds controversial, right?
But let’s think about the unexpected upside of being wrong. One of the universal struggles of life is our resistance to being wrong.

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Whether we’re pitching an idea or defending an opinion. We often feel a strong need to be right and this tendency is reinforced by our cultural conditioning, which tells us that the person who is wrong is weak and foolish, while the person who is right is strong and capable.

Let’s say while in a discussion at work, we’re presenting an idea for how to solve a key problem. As we face opposing opinions. Even the thought of being perceived as wrong can stir up feelings of embarrassment and anger. But this resistance to being wrong causes us stress and suffering. It strengthens our ego and reinforces closeness to the world around us.

Often in order to be right. We won’t even listen to others opinions. So we miss out on opportunities to learn and grow. But it’s not our desire to be right, that’s the problem. It’s our response to being wrong.

We need to see being wrong, not as a defect or weakness, but as a natural part of our path. A sign that we’re learning and evolving. The Mindfulness practice for example encourages us to challenge our need to be right through the principle of beginner’s mind, beginner’s mind teaches us to approach challenges people and conflicts with an open mind and heart. It teaches us that every moment is an opportunity to see the world as new with a childlike curiosity and openness.

So in that same debate at work, we can say to ourselves, before I commit to my idea.

‘Why don’t I listen to the other perspective?

Who knows, perhaps I may be wrong. Maybe there’s something I can learn a new way of seeing things.’

When we let go of our need to be right, we become less authoritative and more curious, we declare fewer opinions, and ask more questions.

As the author Kathryn Schulz said:

“Far from being a mark of indifference or intolerance wrongness is a vital part of how we learn and change things to error, we can revise our understanding of ourselves and amend our ideas about the world.”

However disorienting difficult or humbling, our mistakes might be, it is ultimately wrongness. Not rightness, that can teach us who we are.

A person who knows it does not know, it is infinitely wiser than a person who thinks it knows, without knowing anything. (it was a tweet that I uploaded a few days ago)

Think about that…

How to get concentrated during the ‘Storms’?

From time to time, our concentration can unfold with welcome ease. When we arrive somewhere and close our eyes, our body feels grounded our breath peaceful, our mind clear, but much of the time, it requires effort to relax and stay present.
Sometimes our entire posture can feel like a battle against a restless body and distracted mind and his battle can be especially hard. When we carry strong emotions from our day into our meditation or even before sleep, the emotions like fear, or anger.
They can come with the force of a ‘Storm-front’ throwing us off balance and making it feel impossible to stay and rest.
So in these moments of volatile emotions, our breath, and especially the exhale, conserve as an anchor.
Just as Dolly Parton said…

“Storms make trees take deeper roots”.


So when you’re faced with a gust of emotion that threatens to sweep you away. Imagine yourself strong and rooted, like a tree in the midst of a storm.

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Though the branches and leaves may thrash wildly in the wind and rain. The trunk remains steady and grounded. Its roots anchored deeply into the earth.
So whenever you need to call on the grounding quality of your exhales to find your centre, strong emotions may still be present, they may still stir up the leaves and rattle the windows. But with grounding, you can harness the strength to face the storm, and ride it out.

Simplicity the size of the world. A brief reflection…

On this important occasion of Earth Day. It is important to talk about gratitude, between to-do lists, laptops and airports, we often forget to pause the ground, and reflect on how astonishing our planet is.

We can become so immersed in this modern existence, we lose our connection with nature, but the act of connecting with nature is vitally important, it infuses us with humility, responsibility, and gratitude, many astronauts have recounted that when they view Earth from space, they experience a shift in awareness, they instantly understand on a profound level, that our planet is tiny, fragile and precious.

They call this experience, ‘the overview effect.’

So as we reflect on it together, try bringing that image into your mind’s eye, as though you’re looking down on Earth from space.

Notice the paper-thin atmosphere in developing this tiny ball observed the vivid blue oceans, the swirling white clouds.

The textured green and brown surface of the continents.

Now let’s zoom in a little closer.

Down below the cloud cover, as we saw above the landscape. Notice the rich green forests, sprawling between towering mountains.

Look around and marvel at the beauty and harmony all around you. The Wonder is elements and conditions that support and enrich our lives.

Think of the joy of swimming in the ocean, hearing the songbirds and feeling a summer breeze across your face.

Think of every drop of water you drink every breath of air, you inhale, every morsel of food, you enjoy.

Think of the beauty of a butterfly or a cuddle with a cat, recognise that it all came from this incredible planet.

When we actually take time to reflect on how miraculous our world is, it is difficult not to experience reverence and gratitude.

Albert Einstein said: “There are two ways to live as if nothing is a miracle, or as if everything is a miracle”.

So today, find some time to connect with this planet.

As you stroll in with the trees, see the miracle and every plant and creature. Every gust of wind and beam of sunshine. Everybody blade of grass and drop of rain, as you hear the chirps of the robins and smell the scent of the lilacs.

Allow your breath to slow your gaze to deepen your heart to fill in. Remember you’re not a visitor here. The Earth is your return address in the universe. You are a citizen of the interconnected mesh of life on Earth, beautiful and complex, and billions of years in the making.

I hope you enjoyed this reflection, thank you for your time here.