Why should we accept criticism?

In the same way we work to be open and accepting when we fit, these are qualities that are helpful to bring into the challenges of daily life. One of them is the challenge of receiving criticism.

Whether or not it’s warranted, many of us find criticism difficult to hear. We often take it to heart becoming hard on ourselves, defensive hurt, and even self deprecating. Our judging mind jumps in with pointed self criticism, leaving us feeling embarrassed, disappointed, or like we failed.

It’s important to remember that criticism is often constructive and meant to help us thrive, and improve rather than hurt us, learning how to listen to it openly and receptively helps us become less defensive less emotional, so that we don’t miss the point of what’s being said. Of course not all criticism is constructive still listening to all of it openly allows us to respond from a calm nonreactive place.

So how do we accept criticism?

When a boss, friend or family member shares words that feel pointed or hurtful. Well, we can start by taking a few deep conscious breaths while the person we’re talking to is speaking. We can use the breath as a tool to comas, as we tried to remain open, and not take things personally, even if it feels person.

It can also be supportive to rest a hand somewhere that feels grounded, like our belly or chest. The simple gesture can help us feel safe and remain open, so that we can truly listen to the words being said, without shutting down or interrupting. And if we’re overwhelmed or need time to absorb their criticism.

It’s perfectly okay to ask for some space and time to reflect, creating a bit of distance allows us to acknowledge our feelings, and to hold them with compassion. The idea in taking the space is to create a calmer, clearer state of mind, from which we can process what was said, with less judgement, noting the valid points, and letting go of those that don’t serve us.

We can choose which parts to disregard and which parts to use as feedback, the critique becomes an opportunity for growth and self improvement.

So the next time you find yourself on the receiving end of criticism, reflect on the following words of wisdom, take criticism seriously, but not personally. If there is truth, or merit and a criticism, try to learn from it. Otherwise, let it roll right off you gently come back.

Disconnect to connect

A time ago I was asked why I had disappeared from social media and everything else so I told that friend something that really changed my life and I believe so many others as well…

Meditation.

Meditation, is something that unfortunately is underestimated, but if people understand the idea of Meditation that is about disconnecting but isn’t it the habit of disconnecting of essential things in our lives I explained that, connecting with people, connecting to our passion from work and the world around us is deeply important in our lives.

One of my favourite place for meditating.

We need to connect, we have to build relationships, we need to connect to work we do in order to be impactful and we have to connect with whatever brings joy and gives us a purpose.

The problem is we are often so consumed by those things and then we lose balance and perspective, so through the practice of meditation and mindfulness we learn to disconnect in order to connect, when we lose our way is often only through disconnecting that we can come back on course.

So for instance, we can disconnect from the busyness in order to connect to our slower common pace.

We can disconnect from distractions, so we can better focus, we can disconnect from the noise in our minds, so then we can quiet the stories that we have the habit of telling ourselves that don’t serve us, we can disconnect from the stress and bad random thoughts in order to connect with our stillness and clarity.

We can disconnect from fear in order to connect with the deeper wisdom in ourselves and can better guide us in times of uncertainty.

And we can disconnect from chaos by breathing deeply in times we are overwhelmed in order to find peace.

So by all means connect to the world around you. Relishing the beauty of your surrounds

Engaging in meaningful conversations, through yourself to your work and what will bring the fulfilment but come back again and again when life becomes too busy or overwhelming

When you seek clarities and stillness of your perspectives remember to disconnect in order to connect with what matters.