Is good to be wrong!

What if tell you is good to be wrong?
It can sounds controversial, right?
But let’s think about the unexpected upside of being wrong. One of the universal struggles of life is our resistance to being wrong.

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Whether we’re pitching an idea or defending an opinion. We often feel a strong need to be right and this tendency is reinforced by our cultural conditioning, which tells us that the person who is wrong is weak and foolish, while the person who is right is strong and capable.

Let’s say while in a discussion at work, we’re presenting an idea for how to solve a key problem. As we face opposing opinions. Even the thought of being perceived as wrong can stir up feelings of embarrassment and anger. But this resistance to being wrong causes us stress and suffering. It strengthens our ego and reinforces closeness to the world around us.

Often in order to be right. We won’t even listen to others opinions. So we miss out on opportunities to learn and grow. But it’s not our desire to be right, that’s the problem. It’s our response to being wrong.

We need to see being wrong, not as a defect or weakness, but as a natural part of our path. A sign that we’re learning and evolving. The Mindfulness practice for example encourages us to challenge our need to be right through the principle of beginner’s mind, beginner’s mind teaches us to approach challenges people and conflicts with an open mind and heart. It teaches us that every moment is an opportunity to see the world as new with a childlike curiosity and openness.

So in that same debate at work, we can say to ourselves, before I commit to my idea.

‘Why don’t I listen to the other perspective?

Who knows, perhaps I may be wrong. Maybe there’s something I can learn a new way of seeing things.’

When we let go of our need to be right, we become less authoritative and more curious, we declare fewer opinions, and ask more questions.

As the author Kathryn Schulz said:

“Far from being a mark of indifference or intolerance wrongness is a vital part of how we learn and change things to error, we can revise our understanding of ourselves and amend our ideas about the world.”

However disorienting difficult or humbling, our mistakes might be, it is ultimately wrongness. Not rightness, that can teach us who we are.

A person who knows it does not know, it is infinitely wiser than a person who thinks it knows, without knowing anything. (it was a tweet that I uploaded a few days ago)

Think about that…

How to get concentrated during the ‘Storms’?

From time to time, our concentration can unfold with welcome ease. When we arrive somewhere and close our eyes, our body feels grounded our breath peaceful, our mind clear, but much of the time, it requires effort to relax and stay present.
Sometimes our entire posture can feel like a battle against a restless body and distracted mind and his battle can be especially hard. When we carry strong emotions from our day into our meditation or even before sleep, the emotions like fear, or anger.
They can come with the force of a ‘Storm-front’ throwing us off balance and making it feel impossible to stay and rest.
So in these moments of volatile emotions, our breath, and especially the exhale, conserve as an anchor.
Just as Dolly Parton said…

“Storms make trees take deeper roots”.


So when you’re faced with a gust of emotion that threatens to sweep you away. Imagine yourself strong and rooted, like a tree in the midst of a storm.

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Though the branches and leaves may thrash wildly in the wind and rain. The trunk remains steady and grounded. Its roots anchored deeply into the earth.
So whenever you need to call on the grounding quality of your exhales to find your centre, strong emotions may still be present, they may still stir up the leaves and rattle the windows. But with grounding, you can harness the strength to face the storm, and ride it out.

Simplicity the size of the world. A brief reflection…

On this important occasion of Earth Day. It is important to talk about gratitude, between to-do lists, laptops and airports, we often forget to pause the ground, and reflect on how astonishing our planet is.

We can become so immersed in this modern existence, we lose our connection with nature, but the act of connecting with nature is vitally important, it infuses us with humility, responsibility, and gratitude, many astronauts have recounted that when they view Earth from space, they experience a shift in awareness, they instantly understand on a profound level, that our planet is tiny, fragile and precious.

They call this experience, ‘the overview effect.’

So as we reflect on it together, try bringing that image into your mind’s eye, as though you’re looking down on Earth from space.

Notice the paper-thin atmosphere in developing this tiny ball observed the vivid blue oceans, the swirling white clouds.

The textured green and brown surface of the continents.

Now let’s zoom in a little closer.

Down below the cloud cover, as we saw above the landscape. Notice the rich green forests, sprawling between towering mountains.

Look around and marvel at the beauty and harmony all around you. The Wonder is elements and conditions that support and enrich our lives.

Think of the joy of swimming in the ocean, hearing the songbirds and feeling a summer breeze across your face.

Think of every drop of water you drink every breath of air, you inhale, every morsel of food, you enjoy.

Think of the beauty of a butterfly or a cuddle with a cat, recognise that it all came from this incredible planet.

When we actually take time to reflect on how miraculous our world is, it is difficult not to experience reverence and gratitude.

Albert Einstein said: “There are two ways to live as if nothing is a miracle, or as if everything is a miracle”.

So today, find some time to connect with this planet.

As you stroll in with the trees, see the miracle and every plant and creature. Every gust of wind and beam of sunshine. Everybody blade of grass and drop of rain, as you hear the chirps of the robins and smell the scent of the lilacs.

Allow your breath to slow your gaze to deepen your heart to fill in. Remember you’re not a visitor here. The Earth is your return address in the universe. You are a citizen of the interconnected mesh of life on Earth, beautiful and complex, and billions of years in the making.

I hope you enjoyed this reflection, thank you for your time here.

Problems with productivity? Never more!

I remember the date 03/03/2010 when I had my first heart attack. And when I woke up, in the bed of the hospital, I was reflecting on my dreams, my life and trying to understand why I was there, if I did not even have an addiction or chronic issues.

I was only  15 years old!

After taking over all the treatment stages and psychologically recovered I have started to dedicate my time learning how to optimize and improve my time management.

So by that, I have created a personal method which I could adapt to a new routine and productively upgrade my day and better focus on my objectives that I wanted to reach.

The result?

Yeah, it worked! And nowadays it is often I get invited by companies for talking about this topic and debates about how to improve a routine and the daily productivity.

Well, the first step is underestimated by some people, because they think they don’t have time or it’s unnecessary, but it does have a hugely positive effect when applied.

Reflect/Meditate before getting sleep.

Reflecting about your day, what worked or went wrong. What need to be fixed or what lifted you down. What made your day… Achievements…

What your body is telling you.

When you do a self-scan and let go of the things that need to go you save energy for those things which matter.

After that, the second step is to plan the next day.

Take short notes, clear and objective about what has to be done in priority order.

Avoid longs sheets of to-do lists. Allow spaces on your day for unpredictable situations, things that can disturb your day, however, in this way it will not disturb your progress or have a great day. By the way, with this space, you can also use it for doing things in advance or tasks that were supposed to be done later.

Important to remember those two first steps must be done before sleep, every single day, far from your mobile or on the silence mode, the reason is for you to get concentrated and focus on that with a time dedicated to you.

Begin the day with intention!

When the alarm clock goes off do not turn the ‘snooze’ on. Get up!

Turn on the light of your room or go to the toilet ‘splash’ water on your face and after drink some water to hydrate.

Get far the indisposition and laziness from you!

Nobody wakes up motivated every day, but when you have the intention of having an amazing day, the motivation comes after you!

Exist a right time to get up?

I would say it is not. Because this depends on your routine, however, your daily plan can be customizable but non-negotiable. You cannot and should not negotiate with your success or tasks. It will postpone and delay your results even more.

Watch out!

After all, during the morning on the next day, I still recommend keeping your phone away and if possible practice meditation, exercises and reading.

By the way, during the rest of the day will happen so many things that will take and consume your time and focus. So start the day by adding knowledge and health to you and by that start your day completing the tasks that you planned the previous day.

When finishing each task, put a mark on each of them it will help you to get a visual notion of your production and the flow of your day.

THE BEST PART OF THE DAY

Celebrate and treat yourself after your successful day and have completed all of your tasks, educate your brain and your body to understand that they deserve a resto or whatever you decide as a treat.

You are not a robot or a machine there will be days that will be not possible to complete everything that you expect but do not get upset because of that. Just do not allow that to become a routine and consume your life.

Well, these are some of the examples that I use on my day for improving my concentration and productivity. If will work for you? Depend on you, application and adaptation with the things that make sense to you.

I hope I have helped.

Tell me what do you think about those methods? Which are the methods that you use for improving your day and make it even better?

Comment below I am interested to know.

How to improve your work environment?

Who never faced an awkward situation at work with colleagues or even with the manager or boss?

However, in business life, it is so important we know how to master and guide our Emotional Intelligence.

A stressful work environment can generate disagreement and conflicts.

And in this condition, we can lose the human sense, our connection towards those who we work with.

The practice of kindness is one way we can connect more deeply with our colleagues and as we extend feelings of good things towards those who we work with, it opens our hearts to them making it easier to feel compassion and appreciation for them so that even if we have a disagreement we are still able to step back and see the other person as completely deserving of our respect and compassion.

As we practice this loving-kindness for the people who work by our side we strengthen our sense of connection and community at the workplace and find more happiness in our work.

That means as long as we are strictly connected to the idea of being a positive attitude we do can add value to others around us and also transmit that energy to them. By that, we will be able to build a team environment and a good relationship with the group. 

The more we genuinely care and empathize with others the greater are our own happiness and our peace.

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Disconnect to connect

A time ago I was asked why I had disappeared from social media and everything else so I told that friend something that really changed my life and I believe so many others as well…

Meditation.

Meditation, is something that unfortunately is underestimated, but if people understand the idea of Meditation that is about disconnecting but isn’t it the habit of disconnecting of essential things in our lives I explained that, connecting with people, connecting to our passion from work and the world around us is deeply important in our lives.

One of my favourite place for meditating.

We need to connect, we have to build relationships, we need to connect to work we do in order to be impactful and we have to connect with whatever brings joy and gives us a purpose.

The problem is we are often so consumed by those things and then we lose balance and perspective, so through the practice of meditation and mindfulness we learn to disconnect in order to connect, when we lose our way is often only through disconnecting that we can come back on course.

So for instance, we can disconnect from the busyness in order to connect to our slower common pace.

We can disconnect from distractions, so we can better focus, we can disconnect from the noise in our minds, so then we can quiet the stories that we have the habit of telling ourselves that don’t serve us, we can disconnect from the stress and bad random thoughts in order to connect with our stillness and clarity.

We can disconnect from fear in order to connect with the deeper wisdom in ourselves and can better guide us in times of uncertainty.

And we can disconnect from chaos by breathing deeply in times we are overwhelmed in order to find peace.

So by all means connect to the world around you. Relishing the beauty of your surrounds

Engaging in meaningful conversations, through yourself to your work and what will bring the fulfilment but come back again and again when life becomes too busy or overwhelming

When you seek clarities and stillness of your perspectives remember to disconnect in order to connect with what matters.

Self confidence, is a process.

We spend a huge part of our lives, struggling with insecurity that feel in ourselves. Sometimes because of shyness, fear and imagining what people will think about us. When I started to understand more about self confidence, I created a bried ‘mental map’ about this topic, just try to see everything as a simple process.

From time to time we all struggle with confidence and many of us have thought confidence comes from external achievements.

But the truth the key of confidence lies in the ability to be gentle and friendly to ourselves.

Just imagine you have to give a big presentation at work in front of your boss and colleagues even if we have done everything to prepare, but there still a situation that tests anyone confidence and we begin worried about the worst possible outcomes and during the presentation, these anxious thoughts and nervous destabilise us.

Noticing the thoughts to self out is the first step.

Once we can notice this tendency we can shift our attention to the essence of gentleness and compassion towards ourselves with no judgment acceptance if our perform be poorly or brilliant we can meet ourselves where we are and the honour we did our best!

One more gentle to ourselves is no take things so high because we are not dependent on the validation of others.

We may never eradicate to expire in self out but remindful of awareness and attitude acceptance, gentleness our insecurity begin to soften.

The root of truth confidence grows from our ability to be an unconditional friendship with ourselves to train gentleness and to trust in natural intelligence to navigate life.

If not now, when?

After years of observing people and trying to understand why some of them (I’d say the majority that I noticed), were feeling regret of their past I got the main point about what could be a factor for this feeling. Then I have written,“If not now, when?

Every day we make decisions…

Hard or easy, which career to pursue, flavour for the ice cream, next trip, what to do next week…

When we face an important choice we feel mobilized by that decision.

Thinking and scared to choose the “wrong one” and feel regret later.

But decisions are inevitable no matter how harsh might be we must take them.

And then make peace with them!

Of course, we ponder outcomes…

But a long period of indecisions make us stressed and anxious, sometimes we must make a choice simply to move forward even if we don’t feel positive if it’s the right one.

There are elements that will guide you and show if it was right or not.

But makes informal decisions even when one feels is good enough for this moment provides relive and allow us to rest.

So the next time you struggle with a decision, take deep breaths and make space, listen deeply to both of intuition! And your sense of reason trust in the best decision you can make right now!

Notice how free will feel for following your instincts.

Trust your judgment.

Then, rest and relive for simply have made that decision.

Remember even if you have made the wrong choice you gained inside that can guide you and direct you.

We can think to play possible scenarios/decisions, but when it comes we have to consult our heart and move forward, maybe we do well or bad.

Every decision brings lessons!

But indecisions drag on for years for many people that wonder have the courage to leap.

Whoever even decides can make a mistake, but if you don’t decide, you’ve already made a mistake!

Pressure… What to do ?

A certain time ago I have experienced a bad feeling of pressure. This was literally suffocating me but I decided to stop it in way that helped me to have the control and to master such situations.

In this modern life, it is so easy we get distracted. We wake up already thinking about our to do list, schedules and everything that always takes up our time.

One day when I was feeling overwhelmed and quite stressed, I decided to close my laptop, to take a walk around my neighbourhood and to go to the store near my house, despite it was a bit cold as it was the beginning of autumn. Fortunately, it was sunny and really stunning the rest of afternoon with an incredible sunset.

On the way back I saw kids playing soccer on the grass around the neighbourhood so I decided to stop and play with them. Then, instantly I felt connected with the feeling of gratitude and calmness. I took off my shoes and I wanted to walk on the grass and feel that energy coming from nature. My concerns and fears just vanished and I was completely enjoying that moment with the kids.

After some time, I started to reflect about my life and everything that has been consuming my time in a way that I could not even have or enjoy such special times like that moment. It was one of the rare moments I could connect myself to my childhood.

Also, how important it was to take this break because I was missing this connection of gratitude and relaxing turning problems off and focusing on my mental health.

However, when I was on the way back home, all concerns and fears came back as well and the special feeling I had just experienced with the kids had gone in seconds. Then I opened my laptop trying to produce something and at the same time I felt upset for not even starting and remembering my deadlines were coming.

So, I have stopped everything again, not for procrastinating but for thinking which solutions I could have, facing those problems of feeling empty and under pressure.  

Then I closed my eyes and I started to meditate for a while taking deep breathes.

After everything I just opened my eyes and I came back to do my work.

Finally, I got everything done and better than I could expect. So from that time I realised sometimes, we need to find our connection with ourselves, taking a pause and reflecting about how we are getting on.

Nowadays, whenever I feel overwhelmed or stressed, I come straight away back to this feeling and my activities. Productivities are drastically, positively affected by this. So, whenever I see people in a similar situation, I try to encourage them to find themselves and to make that connection of metacognition. Stopping for a little while, taking a deep breath, reflecting about life and everything around, connecting with a positive energy and then coming back to work and produce the best that they can.

  Reflection is not only thinking about things but how you will react after thinking how you will work things out. Life demands comprehension and patience but it is absolutely worth the experience of learning and improving your knowledge of reflecting and getting know yourself.